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Julie Falatko's avatar

Ha, I was reading this so hungrily and recognizing myself so much in it, and then I literally recognized myself, because there was my own name! THANK YOU.

I think it's really important not to discount the need for sometimes having adult interactions. Four hours of nonstop The Wheels on the Bus or Do You Know the Muffin Man or whatever is some surreal brain-melting stuff. But also I've learned that, for me at least, the "adults" of social media scrolls sometimes make me feel worse. It works if I'm intentional about it ("I'm going to see what this one person I love has posted recently") vs "FEED ME, INSTAGRAM."

I've had a Sony Alpha APS-C camera for years. I love it. It's great.

My kids aren't toddlers anymore (in a few weeks we're actually hitting this mythical time we've been looking toward for years, when for three months we will have four teenagers, until my oldest turns 20) but the things you say are all the same, now -- I'm a much better parent if I'm nowhere near my phone.

Also I did a video about this a few months ago, in case you missed it: https://juliefalatko.substack.com/p/writing-in-30-second-spurts

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Theresa "Sam" Houghton's avatar

"I also had my husband install a landline at our house so that I can power down my smartphone and know that I am still reachable."

This made me think of the remark a friend made to me at church last weekend: She saw some landline phones while out shopping and was struck with a longing to return to a setup where people call and leave messages rather than being "always on."

I'm trying to decouple from my phone more in general. I stopped taking it to church with me and want to move on to leaving it home during short outings. I don't keep any chat apps on it aside from Messages, and I turned all notifications off several months ago. Anything potentially distracting is relegated to a second home screen, which I can't access during work hours.

I'm also considering how I might be able to downgrade to a dumber-but-not-totally-dumb phone (I'm directionally challenged, so GPS is a must 😅) to further minimize my interactions with screens.

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