Welcome to the club! It's such an eye-opener once you know the reason but it can become overwhelming when you start to realise how much of what you do is actually either the adhd or coping strategies for it. I'm so glad you've ended up with a life that works for, than against your brain. I went hard in the fight against, and am now trying to find a way to do the same. 🥴
YES!! The diagnosis must be such a relief. I've spent years of my life hunting for the hole in my brain. So far no diagnosis, but I also know the drugs give me migraines, so I focus on the tools. Headphones are #1. Sometimes I use them alone at home just to drown out the sound of unfolded laundry.
I have always liked the idea of a social media sabbatical, but that would mean losing access to my friendships. In-person friendships are the hardest thing for me and my loves all reside elsewhere....
Thanks for the candid personal story! I have an interesting relationship too with social media, which I hope to write about at length in my newsletter. I wasn't on it at all until starting my Substack here, and still am only using it for sharing content and not recreational socializing. And yet, I must admit, Facebook is taking a heavy toll on my sanity. The emotional drain just from knowing the distraction is there waiting for me, and all the chasing after shadows of validation! There are people who can use these platforms, but I'm learning that I can't. Like you wrote, it's not about discipline but learning what works for me. It's a journey.
Welcome to the club! It's such an eye-opener once you know the reason but it can become overwhelming when you start to realise how much of what you do is actually either the adhd or coping strategies for it. I'm so glad you've ended up with a life that works for, than against your brain. I went hard in the fight against, and am now trying to find a way to do the same. 🥴
YES!! The diagnosis must be such a relief. I've spent years of my life hunting for the hole in my brain. So far no diagnosis, but I also know the drugs give me migraines, so I focus on the tools. Headphones are #1. Sometimes I use them alone at home just to drown out the sound of unfolded laundry.
I have always liked the idea of a social media sabbatical, but that would mean losing access to my friendships. In-person friendships are the hardest thing for me and my loves all reside elsewhere....
Thanks for the candid personal story! I have an interesting relationship too with social media, which I hope to write about at length in my newsletter. I wasn't on it at all until starting my Substack here, and still am only using it for sharing content and not recreational socializing. And yet, I must admit, Facebook is taking a heavy toll on my sanity. The emotional drain just from knowing the distraction is there waiting for me, and all the chasing after shadows of validation! There are people who can use these platforms, but I'm learning that I can't. Like you wrote, it's not about discipline but learning what works for me. It's a journey.
This is all so relatable. I was diagnosed in October last year and it explains SO MUCH!
If only I could remember the tools. Mostly be alone. The car is a favorite place for no distractions.